I've seen (and heard) it a million times. "No". The one word that says all and controls all. The one word that can fill a moms, or dads, heart with dread. We've all been there, our darling child is letting their opinion be known about our plans for them that day. There must be a way to make them do what we want. I mean, really, aren't we the adults. They are supposed to do what we want them to do, say what we want them to say and act like we want them to act, all the time with a smile on their sweet little faces. But, God, in all his wisdom, created the age of the two year old to teach us something about character. And this week I was witness to the gift of patience.
Raelyn stepped over the threshhold of our studio door and knew immediately that this was not the place she wanted to be that day. Even though mom and dad had these grand visions of their beautiful daughter dressed in the splendor of golden angel wings, Raelyn was having no part of it. Her favorite word soon became "No". No amount of persuasion, cajoling or bribery could make her want to sit where she was supposed to sit. At this point I was preparred to see frustration being etched on the faces of mom and dad but what I saw really made me reflect on my own response to situations that don't go the way I want. The way they smiled at her when she jumped from the stool was still full of warmth. Their laughter as she countinued to run from the room was still filled with love. And you could tell the little games she wanted to play filled them with joy. No harsh words, no strict demands, just pure and simple enjoyment of their daughter. Even though they left with not a single shot taken, you could tell their time together was not wasted.
The next session began with alone time with mom and dad, walking around the studio, looking at pictures and just hanging out. Once in the camera room things were starting off pretty much the same as last time. Mom and Dad were trying everything to coax her to sit on the stool, wearing themselves out in the process. Then finally one good shot. Then a few more between her many trips running to the front door. Watching how patient they were with Raelyn was truly a blessing. I don't know how they managed to always stay calm and positive. I think the only way we made it through the session was with the patience of mom and dad. So the next time I get frustrated, demanding or put out with my kids, I hope I can recall how a little patience can change a "No" moment into a moment to treasure. Here's a few shots of their "treasured moment". --Raynell